The Ultimate Guide to Dating in the Digital Era

September 18, 2018

The Ultimate Guide to Dating in the Digital Era

Dating in the digital world can be a rollercoaster of emotions, one minute it’s “this is so fun!” and the next minute it’s “what the heck am I doing!”. But these days, most couples first meeting is through their phones and secondly in person which can make it feel like you know someone really well even if you haven’t physically laid eyes on them.

We’ve put together some hot tips that might help you navigate your way through dating in the digital era; from dressing for the first date to how much you should reveal before you actually meet for the first time.

1. Digital dating can create a false sense of intimacy

These days most people meet through digital platforms, and instead of talking face-to-face, most conversations happen through text message or messaging apps. While it is often exciting, this toing and froing, it can lead to strong emotions very quickly and a sense of intimacy that you believe to be real.

This can backfire big time. If you’ve been in constant contact and then suddenly your ‘digital partner’ goes quiet, you’re left wondering what you did or said wrong, which can lead to self-doubt and paranoia. To ensure this never happens, organize a meet-up before giving too much away or establishing a connection too deep to get out of unharmed. Create a face-to-face connection and a true sense intimacy.

2. Keep your wits about you

Sometimes we read or see what we want to and find it hard to look at a person’s profile objectively. Keep in mind people can write whatever they want about themselves, even use photos from years ago or images that have been touched up just a little bit too much.

As such, make sure you stay cool, calm and collected when it comes to looking at someone’s profile and talking to someone online. Try not to let your imagination run wild. If it seems too good to be true, it might be. Then again, what do you have to lose by meeting them just once?

3. How to use your phone, an effective dating tool

Most likely you’ll be spending a lot of time on the phone acting like a giddy school girl if you’ve meet someone online. But don’t be afraid to take messaging and texting to the next level with a short phone call or video chat. This is a good why to gauge whether conversation is easy and comfortable in person even before you’ve met.

Also, even if it’s really hard, avoid sending a barrage of text messages. Not everyone enjoys this form of communication. Men, in particular, would prefer a quick phone call to check in or organize plans. If you haven’t heard from someone in a while, there’s no harm in sending a message to see if they want to catch up again. Their response to your text, or lack of, will be your answer.

4. There are plenty of fish in the sea

These days you can scroll through hundreds of profiles online in a matter of minutes. It is easy to fall into the “there might be someone better” trap. This can lead to setting unrealistic standards based on superficial ideas such as looks, age or bio. This can result in you feeling like your perfect other half doesn’t exist.

We’re not suggesting you date everyone, but don’t be afraid to give someone a chance. If someone catches your eye and you are sitting on the fence, delve a little deeper and throw out a fishing line because you never know, you might catch a good one.

5. Don’t stress when dressing for a first date

When you’re meeting someone for the first time, preferably in a quiet, neutral setting, you want to make a fabulous first impression and the easiest way to do this is to dress for you, not for them. Whether you shop in your wardrobe or treat yourself to a new outfit, make sure you feel good in it. Consider reworking an outfit by adding a jacket or dressing it up or down with a pair of flats or heels.

Show off your best features, whether that be your legs, waist or bust but above all always show off your beautiful face. Don’t forget to wear some gorgeous lingerie and comfy shapewear to make you feel even more confident and sexy.

6. Be upfront and be yourself

Don’t be afraid to lay your cards on the table. You’re looking for something casual? Let him know. Hoping to make a real connection? Let him know. There’s no harm in saying so. Sure, it’s best to avoid talking about your perfect wedding and baby names on the first date but let them know your intentions.

Someone who likes you won’t be scared off if they are searching for the same thing. And if they aren’t looking for the same thing as you are, revert to number 4 of this article. At least you haven’t wasted your time and avoided heartache down the line.

Get out there and start meeting people – there’s someone out there for everyone and life it too short to worry about the what ifs. You’re perfect just the way you are, quirks and all, and the right person will see that!


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