The 11 do’s and don’ts for wedding guests

September 04, 2018 1 Comment

The 11 do’s and don’ts for wedding guests

Being invited to the wedding of your nearest and dearest is such an honour, and while it’s the happy couple with the most to organise, you too have an important role in ensuring their special day goes off without a hitch.

There’s a few do’s and don’ts to keep in mind when you’re a wedding guest, with not wearing a white dress at the top of the ‘don’t list’. Here are a few more etiquette guidelines to keep in mind.

The 11 do’s and don’ts for wedding guests

1. Don’t assume you have a plus-one

If your invite only has your name on it and doesn’t specify a plus-one, don’t presume you can bring one to keep you company. This also applies to children, not everyone wants little ones at their wedding and that’s their prerogative. Importantly, try not to be offended because couples are often on a strict budget and it’s their big day not yours.

2. Do adhere to the dress code

A wedding isn’t the place to show-off your brand new cream or champagne-coloured frock, especially if the bride is sticking to traditional whites. Your invite will alert you to the dress code but if it doesn’t, Google the venue to get an idea of whether you should dress up or not.

3. Don’t let it all hang out

At Bella Bodies we’re all about empowering you to live your fullest life, but when it comes to wedding attire, it’s best to avoid showing off a little too much skin. You don’t want to be remembered for all the wrong reasons, especially if the wedding is a family affair.

4. Don’t peak too early

Don’t be that person who peaks too early just because there’s an open bar, slow and steady wins the race during what’s often a long afternoon/evening. Plenty of sparkling water in between drinks and you will wake feeling fabulous!

5. Don’t bring a bulky gift to the venue

Think ahead in regards to what you’ll gift the couple. Some people consider what it might have cost for their meal and gift that to the couple in cash, but this depends on an individual’s financial circumstance. Avoid bringing a large gift; it will cause someone a headache to transport at the end of the night. Take a photo of it instead and slip this inside a card.

6. Do make it on time

This is one event that it’s not fashionable to be late for, so make sure you’ve researched the venue and sussed out how long it’ll take to get there and give yourself half an hour’s breathing space. If you get there early, why not have a bite to eat or a drink nearby. If you’re late, keep a low profile at the back of the venue.

7. Don’t scroll your way through the day

The last thing the happy couple wants to see is a room full of people with their heads down scrolling through their phones. Sure take photos and reply to messages, but why not leave your device in your handbag and socialise in real life rather than online.

8. Do respect cultural traditions

These days lots of weddings are less formal affairs, but don’t take this for granted, especially if you’re attending a wedding that is likely to be steeped in tradition. Take into consideration cultural sensitivities, especially when choosing gifts and what you wear (or shouldn’t wear). If in doubt ask the bride and groom ahead of time.

9. Don’t hog the bride and groom

You must have a quick chat with the happy couple, but they have dozens of guests to see so don’t chew their ears off because it will take them awhile to work the room. And definitely do not complain about the food, parking, weather or who you sat beside, there’s no need to rain on their parade.

10. Do take home your table gift

A lot of thought (and often money) goes into table decorations and thank-you gifts, so it’s a big nono to leave your ‘goodie bag’ on the table. Even if it’s not your thing just take your gift home. And when you do leave, don’t be rude and sneak out, always say goodbye and thanks to the newlyweds.

11. Don’t forget to have a good time

Brides and grooms usually have irrational fears that their guests won’t have a good time and stress about seating arrangements. You can allay their fears by getting on the dance floor, mingling with guests or chatting to the happy couple’s parents. If you don’t move from your seat all night it will definitely be noticed.

One more thing...

Do feel fabulous in what you’re wearing

Our best piece of advice is to wear something that makes you feel comfortable; this is especially the case with shoes. A wedding is not the place to wear-in new heels because otherwise you’ll end up barefoot with blisters. Don’t forget we’ve also got a range of shapewear designed to make you feel great in whatever you wear.


1 Response

Patricia hurworth
Patricia hurworth

September 10, 2018

Very well done, all things covered. shouldn’t have to be said,but after the last wedding that I went to your words should be written on the back of the invite. Ha ha

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